As I sit here this afternoon, I have to say that I've had some interesting thoughts. While this move has been a good thing for me, and for my relationship, it has come at a price.
I am really missing my Momma P, my Pap, Rachel, and Abby today. I'm used to being surrounded by friends and family. I miss being able to walk up the stairs and have mom and pappy, or Rachel there to talk to, and I miss walking out onto the front porch, and having Abby there to talk to.
The house is beautiful, and I am sitting in the family room right now, looking at the photo wall that Boyfriend and I created, and am thinking about every person on the walls, even the ones that I don't know, and I think that these are the people with whom we have shared our lives. We're combining our lives now, and for the most part, we've introduced the other partner to our "important" people. There are some who won't be introduced any time soon, and that is by their choice. I can't help but feel sad about that, but it is not my place to step in, either. It has to be done in their time. I'm patient.
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Monday, October 21, 2013
Day To Day
We're settling into the day to day routine of living in the new house. I think that I've been a bit spoiled by the government shut-down. While it was a stressful time for us, it happened at a good time for us as well. The schedule in the past couple of months have allowed us the time to spend together. After my 10 days in Hawaii, he was on leave, then spent one day at the office, had 5 days in VA for a class (where I had the time to go down with him for a few days), and then we moved, and he had one day at the office again, and then the shut-down. So, basically, he's been able to be home with me for the past 2 months. I've loved every minute of it. The shut-down happened at a good time, at least for the ability for us to get a lot of work done in the new house.
Today is his first day back at the office and I find myself feeling a bit lonely. I've had time to clean up a bit, just basic house cleaning, and to crochet, which I haven't had time to do, and I miss crocheting this time of year. I have a new cross stitch to get ready to work on, and a couple of other crafts that I want to get to, and I'm pretty good company. But, today, it's just weird that he's not here today. Even the dog is missing him. Sigh...
I'll get used to being here on my own, and I'll start looking for a job here shortly, but right now, there's need to be home, and to take care of the house, and getting Libby used to being here. She's doing pretty well. She's making "friends" with the other dogs in the neighborhood. Two of the dogs are quite friendly with her, and one of them, actually will bark for her if she's not outside. When I let her out, and he's not outside, she'll sit by his fence and whine for him. I think it'll take about 2 weeks before he figures out that he can jump the fence and hang out with her!
I'm making friends in the neighborhood as well. I'm finding that the neighbors here are very friendly. I was worried, and quite anxious, about meeting them. It could have been very awkward, being the "New" Girlfriend, but the neighbors have been very nice to me, and one of them and I talk over the back fence, and I enjoy her, another neighbor heard me playing Ruzzle and now, she and I play against each other. So, I suppose my anxiety was for naught.
So, I'm getting used to the day to day routine. Tomorrow, I'll tackle the bathrooms again!
Today is his first day back at the office and I find myself feeling a bit lonely. I've had time to clean up a bit, just basic house cleaning, and to crochet, which I haven't had time to do, and I miss crocheting this time of year. I have a new cross stitch to get ready to work on, and a couple of other crafts that I want to get to, and I'm pretty good company. But, today, it's just weird that he's not here today. Even the dog is missing him. Sigh...
I'll get used to being here on my own, and I'll start looking for a job here shortly, but right now, there's need to be home, and to take care of the house, and getting Libby used to being here. She's doing pretty well. She's making "friends" with the other dogs in the neighborhood. Two of the dogs are quite friendly with her, and one of them, actually will bark for her if she's not outside. When I let her out, and he's not outside, she'll sit by his fence and whine for him. I think it'll take about 2 weeks before he figures out that he can jump the fence and hang out with her!
I'm making friends in the neighborhood as well. I'm finding that the neighbors here are very friendly. I was worried, and quite anxious, about meeting them. It could have been very awkward, being the "New" Girlfriend, but the neighbors have been very nice to me, and one of them and I talk over the back fence, and I enjoy her, another neighbor heard me playing Ruzzle and now, she and I play against each other. So, I suppose my anxiety was for naught.
So, I'm getting used to the day to day routine. Tomorrow, I'll tackle the bathrooms again!
Sunday, October 20, 2013
The BASEMENT
Yesterday, GB and I put up our photo wall in our Family Room. It is FANTASTIC! I love having a huge wall for us to put photos of the people that we love, who love us, and who share our life! It is an amazing sight! Two people with differing levels of OCD probably shouldn't try to do a project of this magnitude, but we did, and we succeeded!
Today, I went through our Cozi app on my laptop, and got a master grocery list put together. It's nice to have an App that will do that, and send the list to both of our phones. This way, if one of us is out, then we can just check the list, and pick stuff up. Next thing to do is to get my Sam's Membership back. I miss shopping there.
We also found and hung up my dry erase stuff, which means that I can plan menus again, and figure out what we need when we use the grocery shopping list on the Cozi App. I love organization, and need to be organized, or stuff will just never get done.
Today, GB has been working in the basement to get it all cleaned out, as tomorrow is Bulk Trash Pick-Up in our neighborhood. Hoping to get all of the trash out of there, so that we can get it cleaned up as well. He doesn't think that he's done a whole lot down there, but I can see a big difference. At least now, most of the stuff has been gone through, and he can decide what to do with it. My thought, BIG DUMPSTER! Either way, I'm just going to encourage him to keep going down there. I feel badly that I'm not too much help down there, right now, because there is SO much stuff that needs to be decided upon, and it's just not my place to make those decisions. I'm also very overwhelmed every time I go down there. To say that it is FULL of stuff is NO understatement. I'm not sure why it wasn't packed up and moved, but now, we have to take care of it, and since it's been abandoned here, we have to deal with it. UGH!
The house is now starting to look the way that we want it to look. I'm surprised at how well our stuff goes together. It's starting to look like a home that showcases each of us. I just feel that a home should reflect the people who live in it, both of us, in our case, need to be represented. It's coming along. Besides, making a home is never finished, people evolve, things change, tastes change. Can I just say that I can't WAIT to paint in here, and get rid of the baby poop yellow on the walls? Spring can't come fast enough for us to be able to do that!
Hope that y'all have had productive weekends as well!
Today, I went through our Cozi app on my laptop, and got a master grocery list put together. It's nice to have an App that will do that, and send the list to both of our phones. This way, if one of us is out, then we can just check the list, and pick stuff up. Next thing to do is to get my Sam's Membership back. I miss shopping there.
We also found and hung up my dry erase stuff, which means that I can plan menus again, and figure out what we need when we use the grocery shopping list on the Cozi App. I love organization, and need to be organized, or stuff will just never get done.
Today, GB has been working in the basement to get it all cleaned out, as tomorrow is Bulk Trash Pick-Up in our neighborhood. Hoping to get all of the trash out of there, so that we can get it cleaned up as well. He doesn't think that he's done a whole lot down there, but I can see a big difference. At least now, most of the stuff has been gone through, and he can decide what to do with it. My thought, BIG DUMPSTER! Either way, I'm just going to encourage him to keep going down there. I feel badly that I'm not too much help down there, right now, because there is SO much stuff that needs to be decided upon, and it's just not my place to make those decisions. I'm also very overwhelmed every time I go down there. To say that it is FULL of stuff is NO understatement. I'm not sure why it wasn't packed up and moved, but now, we have to take care of it, and since it's been abandoned here, we have to deal with it. UGH!
The house is now starting to look the way that we want it to look. I'm surprised at how well our stuff goes together. It's starting to look like a home that showcases each of us. I just feel that a home should reflect the people who live in it, both of us, in our case, need to be represented. It's coming along. Besides, making a home is never finished, people evolve, things change, tastes change. Can I just say that I can't WAIT to paint in here, and get rid of the baby poop yellow on the walls? Spring can't come fast enough for us to be able to do that!
Hope that y'all have had productive weekends as well!
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
It has come to my attention
It has come to my attention, from a comment left on yesterday's blog post that I have supposedely been attacking my boyfriend's ex-wife. It was stated, by her, that I have been posting mean, vindictive, and slanderous accusations towards her. I have read through my blog, and I don't see a single thing that could, by law, be considered any of those things. Whomever the "bird" is who is feeding false information is incorrect. I say show me the proof! You have opened this can of worms and I will always defend myself against your attacks. I deleted your postings because I felt the need to protect you from the comments of those who actually know me and love me, who spend time with me and share my life. I have been nothing but gracious and understanding when it has come to his relationship with you, and I have supported his being there for you and his visits with his grandson, that have included you. You have done nothing but use my relationship with him against him. You have chosen to be ugly and vindictive. He has told me the truth of the reasons for his marriage to you ending, including the fact that he is no saint, and I believe him. I don't think my life with him is perfect, nor do I expect it to be. I expect him to be fallible, just as I am. I still wish you no ill will and just want for you to maybe take some time, examine yourself, and move forward in a healthy manner. Your venomous attacks of me prove that you have not done those things. I'm sorry that you feel wronged, and that you have been hurt. I wish you well.
Monday, October 14, 2013
The Great House Clean Up of 2013
So, I haven't had time to write lately. Things have been crazy at our new house. We've been very busy cleaning up from the last occupant's messes. It literally took me 5 days to clean a kitchen. The only casualty was my right thumbnail. UGH! I hate it when my hands look terrible. Had to go get them fixed last Wednesday, and now, they look much better. Ahhh! So, it amazes me that while we were doing all of this cleaning, that Boyfriend said to me that he now knows that I really love him....when asked why he said that, he said that most other women would have seen the mess that the house was, and would have said Heck No to the mess, and to him as well. I'm not most women, and the truth is that he is worth so much more to me than the mess. I have always been a bit of a fighter when it comes to those that I love, and this is no different. If I have to spend 2 days cleaning a hall bath, 1 full day cleaning a powder room, 2 full days cleaning guest rooms, 2 full days on the living room and family room, then that's what it will take for us to make this house our home. We have to live here right now. There was NO WAY for us to have rented out this place, or to have sold it in the condition in which it was left. Sad, if you ask me. I am shocked at the condition the house is in, and that people would actually live like this. I cannot say how shocked I am, in all truth, I don't think that there are words for how I'm feeling about this. Just know that I love this man, have no culpability in the break up of his marriage. He was separated 2.5 years before we met, his divorce was filed in December, 4 months before we met, and 5 months before we started dating, and there was another woman between the ex-wife and me. I don't get what the issue is at this point. My thought process is that it's past time to get over yourself, move on and get a life. The only thing that I care about right now, is making this house into a real home, surrounding ourselves with family and friends; the people who love us, and building a strong foundation for our relationship, so that we can continue to love each other in the way that we love each other now. I know that we both have to work at it, and want it. We do. Therein lies the truth of the matter.
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